In preparing for the topic of emotional abuse, I found this list of basic needs, and thought it to be helpful and empowering for women who may be in an emotional abusive relationship. This is not a personal list created by myself, but nonetheless found it to be helpful and thought provoking when applying it to any relationship (mother, in laws, sister, friend, lover).

Basic Needs in Relationships

• The need for good will from the others.
• The need for emotional support.
• The need to be heard by the other and to be responded to with respect and acceptance
• The need to have your own view, even if others have a different view.
• The need to have your feelings and experience acknowledged as real.
• The need to receive a sincere apology for any jokes or actions you find offensive.
• The need for clear, honest and informative answers to questions about what affects you.
• The need to for freedom from accusation, interrogation and blame.
• The need to live free from criticism and judgment.
• The need to have your work and your interests respected.
• The need for encouragement.
• The need for freedom from emotional and physical threat.
• The need for freedom from angry outburst and rage.
• The need for freedom from labels which devalue you.
• The need to be respectfully asked rather than ordered.
• The need to have your final decisions accepted.
• The need for privacy at times.

Before your children venture off into the big wide world of Adulthood, ensure they read this book.

In fact be sure to read it yourself first. You are guaranteed to get some valuable information out of it, this just proves you are never to old to learn to valuable lessons of human behaviours.

Comments like: - "If you really loved me…" or " After all I've done for you…" or "How can you be so selfish?" are all "Emotional Blackmail" comments and we really should learn about them so as we know when people in our lives use Fear, Obiligation adn Guild to Manipulate You.

This truly is a MUST READ BOOK.

Single women have so many more options these days for meeting there perfect partner. No longer must we listen to our mother’s incessant stories of Mrs. White’s adorable son who just graduated from Harvard and is single.

We have options.

Is there such thing as "good sex"? How is that defined? It is different for everyone, but it is thought that it involves an orgasm somewhere in the mix. Men can get sexually excited watching Monday Night Football, but for most ladies it is not quite that easy.  How do we achieve the hail mary pass from Tony Romo to T.O. in the final seconds of the 4^th quarter finish when having sex? After all, without the big finish what’s the point? I'm no sexologist, but I've learned that it is all in the head… your head.

Sex is supposed to be enjoyed by both parties, so if it is an obligatory act that you are performing then you will never enjoy it. Clear your mind. You can't achieve if you are thinking about picking little Mary up from gymnastics and Johnny from Little League. Doing breathing exercises helps for clearing the mind, in through the nose and out through the mouth. Clear your thoughts and focus on the act, enjoy your partner and their touch. Communicate with them. Tell them what feels good and what doesn't. Come on ladies, we can please ourselves, show your partner how to do it. Which brings me to my next point, share your pleasure with your partner. Please yourself. Seriously, your partner will love to watch you do it to yourself, and will even help, in the process. Ohhh I know it’s the taboo “M word” but come on seriously, you don’t really want to just lay there…. Do you?

So your partner has popped the question, and you said "yes" what now? Every little girl dreams of that big day her wedding, the dress, the flowers, the cake, the reception. It can all be very overwhelming. Where do you begin? What's the first step? Do you hire a wedding planner, or do everything yourself. Do you listen to your mother-in law to be or your own mother.

First take a step back and breathe. Exhale!

Good.

Now, you and your new fiancé have some questions to decide upon for yourselves and some to render to the family. The first obviously is, how long do you want the engagement to be? If you are opting for a longer engagement, meaning years down the road, not months, then you have plenty of time. If not, then you need to decide first and foremost what kind of wedding do you want: Indoor or outdoor, church or park, boat or beach? These decisions need to be considered in relation to time of year when you want to get married. If you choose park in the middle of winter, then have a back-up plan in case of rain.  After that, decide your budget.  Have you and your fiancé saved for your nuptials? The old fashioned tradition was for the father of the bride to cough up the dough, but that isn’t so much the case. You need to meet with your families to decide how much everyone is prepared to contribute? A good wedding or wedding to remember isn’t based upon the money spent. It is about creating memories and your guests leaving having a memorable day celebrating the love of you and your new partner.

I have a book that I recommend every person reads at some stage, it is a fantastic behavioural book that is especially important prior to entering into a long term commitment. Enjoy! 

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There are so many people feeling lonely and looking for love, desperate for a partner, and understandably so! It is a built-in mechanism in our minds, our bodies, as well as our souls and unfortunately our media can cash in on this fact. There are so many markets based on this weakness that so many of us can succumb to, and so many advertising schemes based on exploiting it for profit.

People are often lured in by promises that they will be more attractive using some products than others and there are countless dating programs online and off promising to make it easier to find the love of your life, your soul mate, your beau ideal. They certainly can be helpful resources, but more often than not people can become disappointed in them or even become hopeless when such programs don’t deliver the results that they claim. I don’t think that this situation in general can be remedied, because I don’t feel it’s the plan that fails. Any one of those dating sites, books and programs can work if only you begin them with the right mindset and reasonable expectations.

However, I think you must understand, you are the most important person that will ever care about you. How you feel about and treat yourself has so much more impact than the feelings of those around you. The better you feel about yourself and the more you love and value yourself, the less effect anyone else can have on your personal outlook or your own self-image. The more you value and care for yourself, the less you will need to seek the affection of others.

Of course, you will still want to experience true love and a healthy, long-lasting relationship, you will continue to look for it and be open to it. But when we are more desperate to find someone else who will love us, the more likely we may be to accept affection from others without truly understanding what their motives are. When we rely on receiving affection from others to feel better about ourselves, to feel validated, to feel attractive and self-confident, we will accept attention from less than savory admirers.

So many of us get into relationships with the wrong people, simply because they made us feel good about ourselves in the beginning, only to become disillusioned later in the relationship and learn that the source of that attention that made us feel so good is not who we believed they were, they had other motives, they are unfaithful, they are abusive. We get hurt mentally, emotionally and at times even physically because we wanted so badly to feel beautiful.

It doesn’t necessarily have to happen this way. We are women. beautiful, remarkable creatures whose bodies do incredible things that we can hardly begin to understand. We have the amazing gift of bearing children, nourishing them within our wombs as our bodies almost magically help them to grow, our bodies can even create the sustenance that will continue to nourish them for months or years after birth if we so choose!

We each have wonderful, unique qualities that we should cherish and the person that we choose to shower with the radiant glow of our affection ought to value all of those fantastic qualities as well! But can you really expect them to see those amazing qualities within if you, the one who knows you best, fails to recognize them?

I have recommended this book “Emotional Blackmail” by Susan Forward to so many people who have come from a relationship full of manipulation and I truly believe that everyone who intends to venture into a relationship with another person should obtain and read this book. To me it is like the bible of relationships, I wish I had it before some of my previous relationships and I am not saying that I was always the angel, I was just able to see and realize the faults of both sides after reading it. Enjoy!

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